There is almost no one who has not experienced violence to a certain extent in their life. Some people face violence in childhood, but it also happens in later life, even when they are older. Violence can be perpetrated by anyone, as a family member, schoolmate, work colleague, or even a stranger. We all experience this, but sometimes we hear about an experience that makes us understand how serious the matter is.
It also happened to three-year-old red-haired boy Noah Gilbert, who was harassed for his hair color, which individuals characterized as ‘horrible’ hair. Such an attitude of individuals saddened his mother Lauren Russell was her son who had to go through this difficulty. This happened when they got on the bus with their son and the mother heard the teenagers making fun of his ginger hair. The teenager’s words were unusually cruel and no one would want to hear them about their child.
Even though Noah was only three years old, the teenager’s words visibly upset him, so he was disappointed why he didn’t have blonde hair like his brother Charlie. When he asked his brother why he has such horrible hair, he pleasantly surprised him with the answer that on the contrary, his hair is beautiful and that he is privileged because few people have such hair.
Unfortunately, he didn’t stop asking his mom why people don’t like his hair, so he even demanded that it be changed for him somehow. Every time Noah asked a question for Lauren it was heartbreaking, so in search of help, she posted the story on social media.
The post went viral and many people posted pictures of their red-haired children accompanying them with positive reactions and comparing them to celebrities from the public like Damien Lewis, Ed Sheeran, or Prince Harry!
Messages arrived daily and mostly from the UK showing support and saying Noah is wonderful. When Lauren read him all the nice comments, his face lit up.
Although she hoped Noah would forget the nasty remarks, she wanted an apology to the teenagers, so she contacted their high school as well.
Lorena’s other children, Charlie and seven-month-old twins, Jacob and Zachary have blonde hair.
This was not the first time Lauren had heard her son make fun of her and she was aware that this would happen again in the future. What particularly upset her was that her handsome boy was told that social services should have taken him away because his hair color was disgusting. And that the situation was getting worse, that boy told his friend that if he got a ginger baby, he would kill him.
This really confused the 3-year-old boy as well. This was an even more important reason why she went public and that these cruel bullies, who are in the minority, are warned and prevented from behaving incorrectly.
She wanted to show Noah that there are more good things than bad in this world.
So, if your child is being bullied, you need to act to help stop it, if possible. And even if bullying isn’t an issue with your children it’s important to discuss it with them and they will be prepared if it does happen. This is a reason why we are offering you some important issues about bullying.
When teasing becomes hurtful, unkind, and constant, it crosses the line into bullying and it needs to be stopped.
It is intentionally disturbing in physical, verbal, or psychological ways. It can range from hitting, name-calling, shoving, threats, and mocking to extorting money and possessions. Some kids bully by shunning others and spreading rumors about them, while others use social media or electronic messaging to hurt others’ feelings.
It’s a serious problem and can affect kids’ sense of safety and self-worth. Sometimes, in severe cases, bullying has contributed to tragedies, such as suicides and school shootings.
Signs of Bullying
There are some warning signs that parents might notice kids acting differently or seeming anxious, or not sleeping well, eating, or doing the things they usually enjoy. When kids seem more easily upset or moodier than usual, or when they start avoiding certain situations, such as taking the bus to school, which might be because of a bully.
– Physical injuries, such as unexplained bruises
– Being mysteriously ‘ill’ each morning in order to skipp school
– Not doing as well at school
– Asking for, or stealing, money (to give to whoever’s bullying them)
– Losing confidence, being nervous, or becoming distressed and withdrawn
– Bullying others.
When you recognize bullying of your child, listen calmly, and offer comfort and support. Because kids feel embarrassed and ashamed, they are often reluctant to tell adults about bullying. They can also worry that their parents will be disappointed, upset, angry, or reactive.
Here are some strategies to discuss with kids that can help improve the situation and make kids feel better:
– Avoid the bully and use the companion system, making sure to have someone with you so that you’re not alone with the bully.
– Hold the anger – practice not reacting by crying or looking red or upset.
– Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully
– Tell an adult (teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school)
– Talk about it – to someone you trust (a guidance counselor, teacher, sibling, or friend)