Reading This Advice Will Melt Your Heart
Here you can find a piece of marriage advice by an actor Bred Pit who gave it after his divorce that followed 11 years of marriage.
He admitted that he isn’t a relationship expert, but after losing a woman that he loved, and a marriage of almost 11 years, he realized that he would have done differently, and he decided to share that with others.
Never Stop Courting
The man should never stop dating, as the woman is never taken for granted. By asking her to marry you, you promised many things (to OWN HER HEART, to protect it etc.). Because the woman CHOSE YOU, you should NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
Protect Your Own Heart
However, you must guard your own heart, too, with the same vigilance. By loving yourself fully, and the world openly, keep the special place in your heart for your wife. Refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there!
If the people are constantly changing, they are not the same person after an extended period of time. It is important to always fight to win the wife’s love just as you did when you were courting her.
Always See the Best in Her
You should be focused only on what you love and you can be consumed by love, too.
When you focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, without a doubt you are the luckiest man on the Earth to have this woman as your wife.
It’s Not Your Job to Change or Fix Her
If your wife changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. Remember that the man’s job is not to make an expectation of her ever-changing.
Take Full Accountability…
Your wife shouldn’t be responsible to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. Every man is responsible for finding his own happiness.
Never Blame Your Wife
When you are frustrated or angry at her, it is something that triggers you from inside. YOUR emotions are your responsibility, so in case of feeling those feelings take time to look within and understand what you should really solve.
Be aware that this woman attracted you and she was the person best suited to trigger all of your expectations (childhood wounds… and healed them).
Allow Your Woman to Just Be
It’s not your job to fix it when she’s sad or upset. You should just HOLD HER and let her know it is ok. Let her know that you know everything and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean.
When your wife is upset, stand always present and strong and let her know that you aren’t going anywhere.
Fill Her Soul Everyday…
Learning her love languages and the specific ways that she feels is the most important thing in your relationship. If you don’t know, ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved.
Along with giving her your time you should give your focus and your soul, too. Do whatever is necessary to make her feel that you are full OF HER.
Be Willing To Take Her Sexually…
In order to consume her and devour her with your strength, you should penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul, letting her melt into her feminine softness, knowing that she can trust you fully.
Don’t Be an Idiot
As anyone makes mistakes, try not to make too big, and learn from the ones you do make. Nobody is supposed to be perfect, so just try to not be too stupid.
Give Her Space
As most of the time the woman pays attention to others, sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to develop herself and find what feeds her soul. So, you should give her that space and she will come back with new songs to sing.
Share your feelings and fears, and be quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
Be Fully Transparent
In order to achieve a full trust, you must be willing to share EVERYTHING, especially those secret things. It really takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart.
Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your light as well as your darkness.
Never Stop Growing Together
Finding common dreams, goals, and visions to work towards is the real attitude of your relationship.
Don’t Worry About Money
Be aware that the money is a game, so find ways to work together as a team in order to win it.
Your focus should be on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. If you hold onto past mistakes made either of you or her your marriage will hold you back. Remember that FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM, so cut the anchor loose and choose the love.
Always Choose Love
In the end, this is the only advice you need, as love will always endure.