Without a doubt, friends can be the most important people in our lives. Some of them are with us in our darkest times, help us grow and become better people, motivate us to achieve our goals, and will take care of us no matter what happens.
We cannot imagine our lives without such people.
Unfortunately, people grow and change. We all go through changes and sometimes that change can separate from many people we care about. And we cannot control it. In a matter of seconds, what was the once most valuable person, can become a total stranger that you have no strong feelings for anymore.
If you wake up one day and feel your friendship ran its course, you need to cut the strings and stop your connections. The more you wait, the harder it gets to stand those so-called friends.
If you let a close friend hurt you then it is you the one that needs to leave. They do not deserve to be part of your life in, good and bad. Acknowledge to yourself that they are not worth your time, as life is too short to be wasted on people who take away your happiness.
These are the types of friends you shouldn’t blame yourself for walking away from:
The Fake One
Some so many people will give you compliments and cherish you but will talk about you behind your back. They don’t mean what they say. The only reason they complement you is that they want you to be their friend and to value them. And those people are, at work, at school, everywhere… Their thirst for attention is big and they are desperate for it. Try to recognize those fake people and stay away from them.
The naysayers are known to be downers and killjoys. The moment you see that person, you instantly feel your stomach twisting. It feels like the atmosphere suddenly changed and it’s not fun and games anymore. They can destroy your desires, your hopes, and dreams, and can easily shut down your ideas. These ‘friends’ are not the ones that will encourage you. The main reason they do this is that they are afraid of changes; people like this are terrified to get out of their comfort zone.
The One that Doubts Everything
Friends who are so-called doubters can be the worst of the worst. It is a relief when these kinds of people are out of your life. They are jealous of you, of your private life, your work, other friends, etc. Doubters will constantly put you down, criticize you, talk behind your back, and make you feel not worth enough. They will be happy to see you fail so they can feel more superior to you and will bath in your misery. It feeds them to see you not fulfilling your dreams. You should never call these people your friends – they are your enemies.
The One that Shows off
Every time a bragger starts to tell a story about their loved one, how they are cute together, or how their job is perfect, they start looking foolish. It doesn’t mean these people are toxic, don’t get me wrong, but it can be so annoying and exhausting to hear them. You will get lost in their stories right away. Keep a distance from people who waste your time and you won’t make any productive conversation.
The One that Complains About Everything
The complainers are always unsatisfied with their lives and unhappy no matter what they do. Something will always be bothering them, even though you try to make everything you can to make them happy. Don’t be a fool and blame yourself because they are constantly negative. It’s in their head. And there’s nothing you can do about it. And if you aren’t careful, you may end up in their never-ending circle of negativity.
We choose the people we spend our time with. Life is in our hands, so we need to take the wheel and control it. NEVER let toxic people destroy your happiness and dreams. The sooner you realize not every friend is truthful, the better off you will be. Cut those people out of your life and see how your perspective changes over time.