Parenting is undoubtedly the most challenging job in people’s lives. Parents should always make sure that their children are well fed, clothed, and have a roof over their heads.
But these are not the only things that matter when it comes to being a parent. Sometimes people forget that raising a small human being into a responsible, sharp-minded and gentle adult is as much important as all of the above mentioned difficulties. Therefore, taking care of our children on an emotional level matters a lot.
Providing your child with all of the physical objects he or she needs, does not mean that his or her needs are satisfied on an emotional level too. People must understand that the two areas are completely different.
During the process of parenting, parents should realize that neglecting the emotional development of their children does not bring any good. Children should be taught to never suppress the way they feel and internalize their pain, as they usually do. They should be told to face their emotions and deal with them.
It is completely normal for children to be found in various kinds of situations, experiencing different sorts of emotions, some of them they find pleasing, some of them not. Therefore, they need to be helped to grow emotionally and taught how to recognize some emotional responses and express their feeling accordingly.
This is not difficult to do and it’s for the benefit of your children because that way your children’s characters will be improved as well as the relationships in their lives.
Here are some things you should consider when trying to help your children deal with their emotions
– Show interest in their feelings and ask them to talk about it with you. Let them be relaxed when talking to you about their emotions. Whenever they seem to have something on their mind, just ask them about it.
– Ask your children how they feel about something but ensure that you are not making them feel as if they are doing something wrong. Always bear in mind that every person is a unique piece of his/her version, so just because your children do not share the same opinion as you, does not mean that they are wrong for feeling that way. Don’t make them feel guilty for feeling in a certain way.
– Teach them to recognize their emotions. Children should know that all of the emotions come with certain consequences, so when it comes to expressing certain emotions they should think twice before acting. Thus, when they are mad about something, make sure they are aware that that’s what they are feeling. You should never let them go through their emotions when they are not able to express themselves properly.
– Do not overreact in from of them, because you are their role model – you should never forget about it. So learn how to handle your emotions in front of them, so as to set a good example.
– Do not make them be a perfect version of your personal imagination and expectation. Let them be a unique version of themselves. If they want to wear red hair clips, don’t make them go with the green ones just because you like them better.
– Emphasize the importance of positive self-talk. Teach them that talking positively about themselves is really important part for personal motivation. So whenever they feel upset about something they need to know how to encourage themselves that things will get better and eventually everything will be alright.
– Talk about uncomfortable emotions so that they know they are not alone when they are facing some of them. One cannot avoid certain emotions and no matter how uncomfortable those emotions are, it’s always better to talk openly about them.
– Let them express themselves in any way they want, be that music, art, fashion, or anything else they are interested in.
– Talk about the way you are coping with your emotions. Talk with them about how you handle your emotions, making them realize that it’s never a good idea not to talk about the way you feel.
– Spend time in nature together. Relaxing yourself in nature, together with people you care about is among the most powerful therapies. Spend time with your children outside, so they become familiar with the importance of being in nature.
– Teach your kinds to label the things they are feeling. Whenever you share some emotions with them, make sure to label the feeling you are talking about. Don’t let them be confused and questioning themselves whether they got your idea right.
– Using books, shows and other things your children like can help you going over their emotions and it can also help them relate better. So when you see a sad person on TV, ask them how it makes them feel.
Facing kids with their emotions should start as early as possible. That way, they will become mentally strong, confident and being able to handle any difficulties they come across. And remember, children should be taught to deal with their problems, and not to escape them or remove them from their lives.